This year, for a number of reasons, I decided to participate in the run, but not the formal ceremonies. It was a quick trip, but it allowed me to pay my respects without wearing myself out. My wife was there to support me through it all, knowing when I needed the distance and when I needed her close by.
It was the first time I had run a 5K in a number of years, but it felt great. Estimates are that about 16,000 ran or walked the route. For me, it was about pushing myself, reflecting on where I've been and continuing to process my emotions. However, it was also about being with other Hokies, seeing the campus and remembering what it feels like to be alive.
In addition to the run, Mary and I went to see an exhibit with some of the items sent to the University after the event from all over the world. I remember in the weeks after, they were on display in Squires Student Center, some for us to take with us. A few items I have from that time are a magnet someone dropped off at my office the week after, a paper crane and a small bear from students at a school in Miami. The Washington Post wrote an article about objects of grief related to the tragedy, which resonated with me.
It's not the physical objects that are important, but the significance they represent. My VT tattoo is my most important symbol. I have carried it with me through finishing my degrees, starting my first job, getting married, earning tenure and promotion as well as so many other events in between. Symbols help remind us of important values we can forget.
We hear much about those who died that day, but sometimes we need more than just a short biography to get a sense of who a person was while they were alive. One of the most intriguing and inspiring figures for me and many others was Liviu Librescu, who saved many students that day. His story provides a perspective on someone who was the best of us and we can all strive to embody those values each day.
The survivors of the Virginia Tech tragedy were always the most inspiring to me, helping me deal with my own emotions. This one about a few of the survivors was written five years ago. The section that reflected an important theme of resilience was key for me, “Every single one of them,” Poole said. “And every single one of them graduated.” They limped back to Blacksburg to continue their studies and to piece their lives back together among friends. They wanted to be in a community that understood."
One group that doesn't get covered as often is the uninjured survivors. Those without visible wounds can go without assistance for longer than they need to. Two stories from NPR covered this angle well this year. One focused on students and the other on a faculty member. I'm not sure which group I fall into, but I can relate to many of the emotions all of these people described.
|Thank you Mary for capturing this moment.|
Ten years of processing the tragedy has been helpful. I appreciate all the love and support I've received from so people in that time. However, I need to thank the Hokie Nation for allowing me to be a lifetime member. I will leave you with Nikki Giovanni's poem that started our healing so many years ago and echo our thoughts to this day.
We are the Hokies.
We will Prevail.
We will Prevail.
We will Prevail.
We are Virginia Tech.